Mamas, Don’t Let Your Babies Grow Up To Be Creepers
[Note to Roasters: By the time this is published many of the links in this post may have 404d. The subject of the post is doing some pretty extensive damage control on his own links so I’ve tried to provide alternatives with clips from original.]
Every once in a while, on a Sunday, I’m moved to check up on what the God-botherers are up to, just for the hell it. It just so happens that this week the hot story along those lines has to do with one Justin Lookadoo (I know?) whose current “ministry” is as a motivational speaker for high-schoolers [and any other age group that can cough up his speaker’s fee].
From what I can tell, the cool thing about being a Christian motivational speaker is that you don’t need any qualifications outside of being a Christian to make a full-time job of it. Lookadoo couldn’t peddle his public speaking skills to bankers, for example, because he doesn’t know squat about high yield funds or T-Bonds.
But no-one has any problem signing him up to entertain 4th period hump-day assemblies because he, like his audience, was a teenager, attended high school and he’s Christian and that’ll do the kids some good, right?
Granted, in public schools, guys like Lookadoo have to “hide their light under a bushel” because . . . separation of church and state. But, Texas, which is different, in many ways, is sort of relaxed about such quibbles.
And, so it is that Justin Lookadoo found himself before an auditorium full of teenagers at a high school in Richardson, TX, this week, just like thousands of other school speaking engagements he’s done over the years.
Except that this one broke bad and went viral. The kids in the audience started critiquing Lookadoo on Twitter and to say that they “pwned” him is something of an understatement.
Here’s a sampling of contributions under what the kids dubbed #lookadouche:
Justin Lookadoo wasn’t always a teen dating expert, though. Before that he was a “pray away the gay” camp counselor for Exodus International. When Alan Chambers, founder of Exodus International, shut the thing down and apologized to the world for making gay youths miserable,” Lookadoo was out of a job and shifted his focus to counselling kids on the ins and outs of Christian dating. Unfortunately, Lookadoo’s creepy sexual stereotypes and relationship advice are apparently repugnant to today’s kids.
Lookadoo has written a number of books on the subject, that he describes as bestsellers in his bio, that give some insight into the dark world of dating according to Lookadoo. Take a stroll around his website, RUDateable.com and [spoiler alert!] prepare to be disgusted. As I said above, some of the most disgusting bits have vanished, but here’s one that was clipped and saved by Brittany Shey of the Houston Press Hairballs blog:
Depicts his answer to “How old are you? . . . . just a little statutory rape humor.
Some sample dating advice from Lookadoo’s books:
Dateable girls “know when to shut up”
Men of God are wild, not domesticated. Dateable guys aren’t tamed.
Please, please don’t tease us. To show us your hot little body … and then tell us we can’t touch it is being a tease. You can’t look that sexy and then tell us to be on our best behavior.
Girls will lie to themselves to get what they want.
Accept your girly-ness. You’re a girl. Be proud of all that means. You are soft, you are gentle, you are a woman.
Dateable girls know that guys need to be needed. A Dateable girl isn’t Miss Independent.
Being a guy is good. Dateable guys know they aren’t as sensitive as girls and that’s okay. They know they are stronger, more dangerous, and more adventurous and that’s okay. Dateable guys are real men who aren’t afraid to be guys.
Keep it covered up. Dateable guys know that porn is bad for the spirit and the mind. They keep women covered up.
Ava Vidal of The Telegraph had the best reaction to that list:
I do not like to play ‘what if’s’ but I will in this case. What if this man were a Muslim? There is no way on God’s green earth he would ever be allowed to dispense this kind of advice. And every single line would be scrutinised and used to illustrate what a sick religion Islam is.
Back in July of this year, a blogger at patheos.com who has written extensively about rape myths, and rape culture singled out Lookadoo’s book as the worst book in the category of Christian dating manuals because it “constantly dehumanizes women.”
So, how is it that so many schools [4,000 by Lookadoo’s own count] are willing to pay Lookadoo thousands of [taxpayer] dollars to stop by and gross out their kids, who, by the way, show a level of maturity and sophistication on this particular subject that put Lookadoo and the school administrators that vetted him and hired him to shame?
Well, evidently, there are some folks out there that believe that Lookadoo’s approach is just fine, dandy and wholesome. Unfortunately, some of them are in a position to decide who influences our children’s education:
Justin is the BEST SPEAKER we have ever had. He has been to my school for 5 straight years and he will come back as long as he wants.” Becky Clapp, Principal, Tyler ISD
Justin understands teens! And better yet, they understand him. The connection between them is amazing. They are captivated by all he has to say and really take to heart his counsel.”—Vicki Spriggs, Executive Director of Texas Juvenile Probation Commission
Justin is the only speaker that brought a change to this campus.—Vicki Neil of Rice Elementary
These kids remember what he says every year. I just saw him do three different programs for three grades in ONE day. It was amazing the transformation that happened as we walked from one location to the other. Within a matter of a few minutes, he went from a high school to an elementary level. Incredible talent!”—Mike Griffin, principal, Lindale Intermediate School
The disastrous program at Richardson, TX this week was, after all, a PTA sponsored assembly, so somebody’s parents probably nominated this guy.
I took a look at Lookadoo’s Facebook page to get a feel for where the guy’s coming from and whether or not the kids might possibly have over-reacted. Here’s what I found:
So, no . . . the guy is a creeper from start to finish. The kids of Richardson, TX, on the other hand, have a pretty strong survival instinct, know BS when they see it and have a refreshing perspective on gender stereotyping. They make me believe that all may not be lost. Now, if the adults in their lives will stop trying to tinker with the better angels of their kids’ nature, we may be looking at a brighter future.
Way to glow, RISDs!
NOTE to School Administrators: Do your job, for God’s sake. Before this happened in Richardson, 30 seconds on the google and you would have known that Lookadoo’s a whackadoo. There are more Nutjobs-for-Jesus out there trying to spin gold out of religion than you can shake a stick at.